No, I can’t
February 13, 2012
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Hi. I’m Marla. Gimme a Minute. I wanna talk to you about when you can’t say no, and when you can.
This is very helpful if you’re the kind of person who never says no, and finds there aren’t enough hours in the day to do everything you said yes to. Of course, you can’t say no to your employer very often, unless it’s a response to the question, “you wanna find a job somewhere else?” So when asked a question starting with , “will you, would you, can you, could you?” and the person asking does not have the power to hire or fire you, remember, you have the “no” option.
There are times you can’t say no, like when your kid asks you to help get a big splinter out of their finger. But what about when your neighbor asks if you can help them pack for their move and you can’t think of anything you would rather do less.
Basically, consider if you have the desire to do what the person is asking, and then, consider if you have the time. If the answer to either one of those questions is “yes,” then before you answer, ask yourself again. Do you really really want to do what the asker is asking? Do you really really have the time?
Life is too short to do all the stuff you don’t want to do, much less the things you have to do.
Ok, I’ve gotta go help a friend pack some moving boxes. Thanks for listening. See ya.