Exes

Hi I’m Marla.  Gimme a Minute.  I wanna talk to you about exes. 

As in ex- boyfriends, ex girlfriends and ex best friends.  These are people who have seen you at your best and your worst.  They know your strengths, and weaknesses.  They probably know some of your deep dark secrets and on occasion, may even BE the secret.

Is it ok to try to maintain a relationship, a platonic, distant relationship with these people after things go sour.

Well, I suppose, so, as long as the cooling off period has brought you to a place where the sight of this person doesn’t make your insides queasy.

But beware of the ex that has his or her finger placed directly on your hot button.  These exes who know your vulnerable spot, who take great delight in pouring salt into an open wound.  These are the exes to ex out of your life.

In general, for these exes, Do not call, write, text or stalk on Facebook or the internet.  They are not worth your time.  Why would you want to give these people any space in your brain?  It’s like going to a beautiful scenic place and then picking a spot to look at the view, right next to a smelly garbage can.

Move.

Avoid.

Block on Facebook.

And by all means, do not stalk a partner’s ex.  That’s just bad form.

Can a toxic ex evolve into a poster ex?  I’m not going to say never, but, then, just because I’ve never seen Sasquatch, doesn’t mean he doesn’t exist, right?

I’m Marla, thanks for listening.  See ya.