Hi. I’m Marla. I wanna talk to you about asking for advice. You know how to do it right.
You ask people you trust and respect, people who seem to know the “go to” people, and you ask them for the name of someone they know who can best answer a question, diagnose symptoms, treat an illness, or address a problem you’re experiencing.
Then, you contact this carefully sought out expert, spend valuable time being completely open and frank about your situation.
Once you receive the well considered, sage advice, the big question is, what do you do with it? I suppose if you got the answer you were looking for, you do what you were already doing, or what you wanted to do in the first place. You get the surgery you were planning, you break off that toxic relationship, you get to get a new job, you sell or retain your investments.
But, what if the advice you get sits poorly in your gut?
You need surgery, but you’re afraid of hospitals, you should break off a toxic relationship, but you don’t want to be alone, you ought to get a new job, but you have bad luck finding employment, you’d be smart to sell or retain your investments, but you worry you’ll lose everything. What if you don’t do what you were advised to do, or do the opposite.
We struggle like this because we fear change. Change happens when the pain of remaining the same is greater than the fear of the change.